Every couple begins romance with euphoric infatuation, but that doesn't last very long.
Eventually, relationship gravity begins to drag your love life towards misery.
What contributes to relationship gravity?
Normal life stresses, personality differences, family heritage, personal baggage,
plus whatever abnormal problems show up - addictions, affairs, psychological disorders, financial disasters.
Use the checklist to determine how badly you need to learn how to defy gravity.
Check the 'mood markers' described below if you feel them either most of the time or often enough that they disturb you.
When you get your results by email, consider talking with your mate about them.
The Grow Together Workshop is designed to help you defy relationship gravity.
| DELIRIOUS - I felt crazy in love, head over heels, when we first started our romance. | |
| DELIGHTED - I enjoy our time together and find real joy in our companionship, either long ago or sometimes now. | |
| DEVOTED - I feel committed, whether there is lots of pleasure or not. | |
| DISTRACTED - Other things in life seem much more important than our relationship used to be to me. | |
| DIFFERENT - We are more different than I first thought, not quite the soulmates I expected to feel like. | |
| DIFFICULT - It's more difficult to be together than I anticipated. | |
| DIVERGING - Our differences might lead us to grow apart from each other. | |
| DETERMINED - I have to make myself stay on track in this relationship; it takes effort and it's not easy. | |
| DISILLUSIONED - It's not as good as what I thought it would be, not by a long shot. | |
| DISAPPOINTED - It's worse than I thought it would be, enough that I feel like I've lost something. | |
| DIMINISHED - Things are bad enough that I feel like I've failed, somehow, that I'm not as good at this as I expected to be. | |
| DISCOURAGED - It's hard to be upbeat about our relationship, I'm seldom optimistic. | |
| DISMAYED - I'm mostly pessimistic, and it makes me sad and anxious. | |
| DISTORTED - I tend to see things through a negative filter, more critical and blaming than I should be. | |
| DISGUSTED - I'm repelled by what I see and feel; how we are with each other bothers me a lot. | |
| DEPRESSED - I'm usually down about our relationship, often thinking that it's not likely to ever get better. | |
| DESPAIRING - I'm broken-hearted and hopeless about our relationship. It feels too sad to bear. | |
| DETACHED - I've flipped the switch in my heart, and I don't feel any love or even much respect for my mate. | |
| DALLIANCE - I have considered or acted upon opportunities to engage romantically or sexually with people other than my mate. | |
| DIVORCING - I have considered or acted upon plans to separate and eventually divorce. | |
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